HOW TO FIND THE PROSTATE
The prostate gland is a male sexual organ that produces up to 1/3 of the fluid in semen.
It’s about the size of a ping-pong ball and can be found be inserting a finger or toy into the anus and curling it towards the navel (upwards, if he’s face up).
It’s often easier to have someone else find it, unless you’re flexible enough (and have long enough fingers) to reach your own.
You might find it easier to locate the prostate when your partner is already turned on because it engorges during arousal. Prostate touch when he is not yet aroused might not feel comfortable.
Many men enjoy prostate massage or other stimulation, such as with vibrating anal toys. Some men have concerns about sexual orientation and prostate play. Remember -- what feels good to you is about where the nerve endings are. Your sexual orientation is not about specific acts – it is about the gender of the person/s you want to have sex with. These are two separate things. The prostate is part of the male anatomy; transgender men may have G-spots rather than prostates, and transwomen have prostates but may use other words to describe their anatomy.
HOW TO STIMULATE THE PROSTATE
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Lots of G-spot vibrators and dildos are great for prostate play, as long as they’re anal-safe. Anal sex toys are:
Easy to clean such as silicone or borosilicate glass (or covered with a condom).
Smooth, since the anus is more delicate than the vagina, and unbreakable.
Have a base to keep them from going all the way inside.
Generally, actions such as stroking, pressure, or larger motions feel better than small motions and vibrations – though sometimes prostate vibration is very much enjoyed.
Some popular ways to pleasure the prostate with a finger or two include: making the “come here” motion, a “windshield wiper” movement, tapping, circles, or firm pressure.
Some men love prostate play, while others say that it doesn’t do anything for them or even that it does not feel good.
Different sensations can feel good at different times during the arousal cycle.
Combining prostate pleasure with something familiar such as oral sex can make it easier to explore.
Prostate stimulation can feel similar to the sensation of needing to urinate. With practice and familiarity, you can learn to tell the feelings apart.