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Much SM play and roleplay is based on “power exchange”, with one person taking the “dominant” role and the other the “submissive”. There are a wide variety of scenarios involving power dynamics – some examples are: master/slave, goddess/worshiper or sergeant/recruit.
Exerting aspects of mental or emotional control, even in role play, can be hurtful if not approached with care. When engaging in power play, it’s a good idea to agree upon time limits, and to find a ritual or signal such as collar or a special instruction to mark the giving of power, and to close the scene.
If you do not know how to anticipate and contain the interation or “roleplay” along certain paths, you may get more than you bargained for. Gender and personal history (such as prior physical or sexual abuse) are also factors to consider. Some people react negatively to personal humiliation, whereas being called a “slut” is acceptable and desired by other people. Negotiate your shared understanding carefully, and explore the possibility of resurfacing emotional traumas triggered by particular words, positions, vocal styles, etc.
No matter if you are a top or bottom, never be afraid to use your safeword is you find yourself in an undesirable situation. If you feel your situation is abusive, remember that no power arrangement or contract is binding when the relationship is no longer fulfilling.
Power play can be intensely positive for both partners when done with caution and communication. Avoid playing with power or head-games when you are depressed, tired, sick, or cranky. Never let real anger or shame enter into your erotic or punishment play.
Exerting aspects of mental or emotional control, even in role play, can be hurtful if not approached with care. When engaging in power play, it’s a good idea to agree upon time limits, and to find a ritual or signal such as collar or a special instruction to mark the giving of power, and to close the scene.
If you do not know how to anticipate and contain the interation or “roleplay” along certain paths, you may get more than you bargained for. Gender and personal history (such as prior physical or sexual abuse) are also factors to consider. Some people react negatively to personal humiliation, whereas being called a “slut” is acceptable and desired by other people. Negotiate your shared understanding carefully, and explore the possibility of resurfacing emotional traumas triggered by particular words, positions, vocal styles, etc.
No matter if you are a top or bottom, never be afraid to use your safeword is you find yourself in an undesirable situation. If you feel your situation is abusive, remember that no power arrangement or contract is binding when the relationship is no longer fulfilling.
Power play can be intensely positive for both partners when done with caution and communication. Avoid playing with power or head-games when you are depressed, tired, sick, or cranky. Never let real anger or shame enter into your erotic or punishment play.
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