Possession

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Slowly the plan formed in Her head. To have this boy, this relative of the man who had betrayed Her, this person, evil in his own right, absolutely at Her beck and call, completely subservient to Her will! 

"Not too tight, Angelina. You could shut off the circulation, maybe do me some permanent harm. I'll not try to get away, Monica. Honest!"

(Soothingly) "Of course not, Brad. I'm sure you're going to be a nice, sweet, gentle creature, but just to make sure you stay that way, I'm going to truss you like a Christmas Turkey. Now let Me pull this even tighter. I like to see rope biting into flesh; it leaves such a nice blue mark there afterward!"

"You made that too tight, Angelina. Honest. I don't think I can ... stand it. I'm going to faint from the pain."

"Silence, victim! Here, I'll just move forward a few inches and make sure you're quiet!"

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How wonderful! These wrists were going to remain secured together until She chose to free them. Why She could tie this hapless creature up any way She chose. No matter how uncomfortable the pose! What a glorious sense of power that rope around those wrists gave Her!

Possession! That's what Angelina had. Total possession of this contemptible person. Why there was no limit to what She could make him do, even strip stark naked! Suddenly the desire to test Her new-found powers seized Her. She moved down, permitting him the use of his mouth.

"If I listen to these heart-rending pleas of yours and free you, will you do whatever I command? And remember, if you attempt to run away, whatever punishment I choose for you will be ten times worse."

"I promise!" "Then get up Brad, and strip down to your shorts. I want you to hand Me your belt. Then when you are naked, stand with your back against that tree!"

Turning into slave

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Irene's teasing photos

"Do you like it?" asked Irene at last, to Karl. He didn't answer, but just stared. Then she shut the book and put it on the coffee table. Then she stood up and sat on the table, facing us.

"I'm going to say this just once," she said, still talking to Karl.

She paused, then said:

"Take off your shirt!"

I sat there, my heart was in my throat, watching the two of them. Karl was looking right at Irene. He still didn't say a word.

"This is your opportunity, Karl", she said finally. In a few more seconds, his fingers rose to the top of his shirt and he started unbuttoning. I knew Irene had said she was going to do something, but I was still shocked that this was actually happening. Irene didn't smile even a little bit. Karl got his shirt off and sat there in his tee shirt. She stood up and pulled the coffee table out of the way, then returned. 

"OK! you stand up!" He stood.

"In front of us!" She sat next to me and he stood in front of us.

"Back up two feet... OK! now the tee shirt!" I stared as he took it off.

"Undo your pants and push them down to your shoes!... Now your underpants!... sit on the floor and get your shoes and socks off!... push your pants and underpants off and stand up again!" He was a bit hard. I just stared. He stood there in front of us, completely naked.

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She leaned over and opened a drawer next to the couch and took out some things. A blindfold, a collar and handcuffs. She stood up and stood in front of him. She put the collar around his neck. Then she walked around behind him and told him to put his hands behind him. I heard the clicking as she put the handcuffs on him. Then she came around and stood in front of him again.

Orgasm denial: the weaning process

Before reading this article, read these ones:
Orgasm Denial: Why Dominant Women like it?
Orgasm Denial: Why submissive men like it?
Orgasm Denial: How does it work?
Orgasm Denial: Trannying day
Orgasm Denial: When chastity is almost a must
Orgasm Denial: Metamorphosis of a Dominant Woman

Orgasm Denial: Prolonged denial gradually

Orgasm Denial: Get men cranky

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One program that some dominant women have used in the area of male orgasm denial (while not effective on all men) is the weaning process. It works as follows: Let's say that you want to begin the denial process on Feb 1 of this year. For the next year, your husband would only receive 13 days of sexual release. I say days because using this particular technique he should receive multiple orgasms on these days. One orgasm is usually not sufficient. It is best to give him multiple orgasms on his orgasm days in the beginning of this training. 

Of these 13 days, most of them are front-loaded and the time in between grows longer. Here would be an example of the schedule using the weaning program for the next year if you started on Feb 1:
Feb 1, Feb 8, Feb 18, March 1, March 18, April 9, May 1, June 1, July 8, August 18, October 1, November 28, January 8 2008 (these are approximate dates and you should be flexible and move these days a few days here and there to fit your schedule).
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Flog with SSC!

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Flogging with someone

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Before any flogging, the participants should negotiate what is desired and what isn’t, along with what “safeword” or other indication the “bottom” is to use to slowdown or stop the flogging. Does the “bottom” like stinging or thud sensations? How open is he or she to new experiences? Has this person had much experience with flogging? Novices may think they can take lots of pain, and then be surprised at what a good flogging actually feels like.

In addi­tion, pertinent medical or physical problems should be made known before beginning.
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Whining baby sissy

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I wake up early the following morning and went checking on my baby-sissy. As I approached her crib I mockingly asked how she slept? She just started to whining like a baby and that kind of humiliation just fulfilled myself with joy and pure excitement. I explained that I was going to change her. I unlocked the top of her crib, removed her dirty diaper and cleaned her up.

I then told her to stay in her crib while I went downstairs to prepare her breakfast. I had barely turned around to leave and the little sissy was already whining again uncontrollably for being all alone locked in the crib, I just laughed as I walked out of the room.

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Infantilism: What is it?

Irene's teasing photos

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Femdom "1st time" story

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I think Karl accepted the idea of eating at Irene's just because he was intrigued by that picture. Not that he had a clue as to what was going to happen, nor did I if you come right down to it. She served us drinks and we sat in the living room talking for a while, at least an hour. She was always a good conversationalist and seemed to have no trouble keeping things going so we were all three talking.

"So Karl, Karen tells me you were intrigued by my picture."

"Oh, was that you?" asked Karl, grinning. We'd had a bunch of drinks and I wasn't as embarrassed by it all as I might be.

Irene just smiled back at him and said "Want to see more?" Then she was gone. Her smile had looked, well, a little calculating, to me at least. Then she was back with a picture album. She sat in the middle of the couch and invited us to sit on each side of her. Then she opened the book.

There were several pictures of her. All with a whip. In some she was dressed as in the other picture, in some she just wore an ordinary, rather conservative suit. It reminded me that I was wearing very conservative clothes because that's what she'd told me to do. She was too, wearing the same suit as she was in the picture.

She flipped the page. One picture: Michael, kneeling, nude! A blindfold was over his eyes and his hands were cuffed behind his back. He had a leather collar around his neck. We stared in silence. The next picture had Michael in the same position, but Irene was in the picture too, in her little leather outfit. She was holding the whip up to Michael's lips and he had part of it in his mouth. She flipped again and it was Michael, dressed the same, but bent down so his rear was in the air and his head was on the floor. And when she flipped it again, it was her whipping him!

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Neurochemicals in the Play

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Neurochemicals behind lust, attraction and love

Oxytocin - the "love" hormone

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In the context of neurochemicals, your scenes can become much more powerful. It's obvious now why the gentle caress of the Top's hand alternating with the pain of whatever is being used can be so powerful. Not only there is pleasure/pain and genital stimulation leading to orgasm, but there is also oxytocin, dopamine, endorphins, within both the Top and the bottom from the touching are all released as well. In addition, the orgasms are very powerful since there is a giving up of control in the process. As the Top and bottom climb together in the scene, the release of the oxytocin brings them closer together, and at the end, the intense emotions they feel for one another create a very strong bond. If there's a will to have the bottom the "flying effect" (as opposed to the simple sadistic pleasure of making the bottom scream in pain), there's a need to understand and work with the bottom's system of neurochemicals. It doesn't take much to get an initial endorphin flush to pain. The Top can start off with some gradually escalating nipple stimulation at the start of a scene. Simply pinching the nipples for 30-60 seconds with increasing pressure is enough to get that first endorphin hit. As the Top is doing this, the Top is reassuring the bottom with a backward countdown from 20.  This lets the bottom know that this is a temporary condition that's about to stop. When done, the Top praise the bottom for being good and let the bottom know how much the bottom has pleased the Top by taking the nipple torture gracefully. At that point, with soothing rhythmic music playing in the background, the Top may start with some light flogging. Because it takes five to ten minutes for the bottom's endorphin pump to recharge itself, the Top's goal for now is to allow the bottom to relax into the scene. Massage, light flogging, light touching, the sound of the Top's voice reassuring and praising the bottom, coaxing into relaxing, into listening to the music, into accepting and not fighting the sensations that the bottom's experiencing. During all of this, the Top's building the bottom oxytocin levels as the bottom settles into the bottom's first light endorphin hit.
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Femdom "1st time" story

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At Irene's suggestion, I suggested Me and Karl sit in bed reading Irene's letters, taking turns going through the whole magazine, it being up to me to figure out which ones turned him on. 

Yes, there were some Female Domination letters, and I wouldn't have believed it, but  was definitely turned on by them. So I took a deep breath and went to the next step. I showed him the picture of Irene. 

"Wow! There are sides to Irene that I never suspected!" 

"Well, what do you think?" 

"She looks hot! Hmm, maybe she could loan you that outfit!"

My heart was beating unbelievably fast. I'd done it! Not only had I broached the subject, but Karl was receptive! But I still had to make it clear what she was talking about.

"She said Michael used to feel that whip."

He didn't say anything but just stared at the picture. I went on: "Do you think you would enjoy being dominated by a woman?"

He still didn't say a thing. He just stared at the picture. Then he looked at me. And finally put the picture aside and kissed me. He was on top of me in seconds and he was an animal!

"He wants it," was Irene's pronouncement when I told her about our escapades. 

"You've got him where you want him."

"Irene! I didn't say I..."

"Oh, come off it ... why do you think you've been doing all this? You're just curious to see if Karl would be willing? I'll bet you're wet all the time just thinking about getting Karl..."

"Irene!" I said, shocked.

She laughed. "Sorry about my mouth."

I laughed too, maybe a little nervously.

"So now you have to set something up," she went on.

"Set up?" Somehow it hadn't sunk in that I was actually going to do anything like this.

"I can see you won't be able to get this off the ground. I'll have to help you."

"Irene, I..."

"I'll get you two started! Listen, don't worry about it ... I know how to do this."

"I don't know, Irene," I said uncertainly.

"Afraid you'll be jealous? Look, he's ready to eat out of your hand. Literally. After this, you'll never be jealous again, I guarantee it."

"What'll you do?"

"Just get him to be subservient to you and get you used to the idea. Look, once you get over this first hump, you won't believe you were worried about this. Look, I'll invite the two of you over for dinner and we'll have a few drinks and I'll take it from there."

I was still uncertain ... I asked her what she was going to do, but she said she had to play it by ear. She finally convinced me and we set a date.

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Orgasm Denial: Get men cranky

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Orgasm Denial: Why Dominant Women like it?
Orgasm Denial: Why submissive men like it?
Orgasm Denial: How does it work?
Orgasm Denial: Trannying day
Orgasm Denial: When chastity is almost a must
Orgasm Denial: Metamorphosis of a Dominant Woman
Orgasm Denial: Prolonged denial gradually

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Men get cranky if they don't get sexual relief after awhile and there are biological reasons for this. The body produces semen in accordance with the male's age and the frequency of his sexual orgasms. The more often a man orgasms, the more his body will expect orgasms and thus the more semen his body will produce. The less frequent his body has sexual release, the less semen his body will produce over time. So a man needs to be weaned off of frequent orgasms much like a body needs weaned off of caffeine, nicotine, medications, sugar, etc. The good news to the wife that hungers to deny her husband for prolonged period of times is that this process accelerates.
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Orgasm Denial: Why men live Women unfulfilled sexually

BDSM vs Exhibitionism

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Your dynamic doesn't have to be public to be valid. The most intense BDSM scenes certainly take place in the privacy of people's own homes. When we belittle "bedroom-only" players, BDSM becomes about exhibitionism and voyeurism, about measuring up to outside observers. If exhibitionism and voyeurism is your thing, by all means, put it all out there, loud and proud. However, if people do not feel comfortable being an open book, putting their dynamic "out there" for the perusal of others, this should be respected too. On a BDSM couple there may be one who has a touch of exhibitionist, but the other hasn’t. One of them can be, in fact, an intensely private person. Many times one would fantasized about being played with in public, enjoying being watched, and making that connection with the watchers. However, the other partner would be uncomfortable and turned off. It wouldn't be enjoyable to one partner if the other wasn't enjoying it too. Public play, even connection with the community, is not for everyone.

Just because you don't want to get out there in the community and show your stuff in front of others doesn't mean you have to surrender your kinkster fantasies. Most of all, you should never, ever feel compelled to play publicly in order to measure up to others, or to somehow prove your kinkiness. The only one you have to prove anything to is yourself and those who you play with, either in public or behind closed doors.

Exhibitionism is hot, but not when it's non-consensual.

"Eyes Wide Shut" Parties

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True luxury orgies are not just something you see in the cinema.

Several times a year, a select circle of people get together to indulge in their passion of luxury and lust. A castle with masked gentry, ladies dressed in opulent evening wear, spruced-up maids, naked desirable maidservants, and muscular servants of love, food prepared by prizewinning chefs and accompanied by the sound of string instruments. This must have been how orgiastic revelries were celebrated in France at the time of the Sun King. Noble, erotic castle parties are not just something you see in a movie; these parties are a reality for already more than a decade. After a welcome drink and live piano music, the guests enjoy a delicious multi-course dinner, prepared by top chefs, accompanied by corresponding wines with background music provided either by a classical string trio or a jazz ensemble.

Thereafter, you are invited to stroll around the castle. The arches and halls are full of delightful options and a number of bowers are available to the guests for all kinds of sensual delights. There you will find everything the heart desires: from large sofas for kissing and cuddling and making love to massive bondage frames, leather racks and crosses made of steel for the somewhat other desire.

At the same time, the beautifully designed bar of the castle provides just the right setting for chatting and socializing. There, the pianist entertains you with a variety of piano pieces until late into the night.

On these parties, masks must be worn until midnight. Furthermore, appropriate dress is required. Whether elegantly dressed, for example, in tails, black tie, evening wear, ball gown, or in erotic garments; extravagant fetish outfits are also very welcome. The clothing should in any case be appropriate for such a beautiful old castle and the special evening. A (velvet) cape that would also adorn a naked servant or maid, matches the mask. There is next to no limit to fantasy and the guests surprise us again and again with their breathtakingly beautiful and erotic outfits. The most important thing is that you feel good!

These parties take place in a stately castle. A hotel with a free shuttle service that is reserve specially for our guests is located nearby.

These guests are attractive couples with a desire for passion. As hedonists, they wish to enjoy valuable time with their partners and they are highly appreciative of the luxury and discretion they experience in these.

D/s: Happiness & Respect

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People who share their life, being in a BDSM relationship or not, always face life's problems, together. Life will bring situations where the Dominant, submissive relationship will be a factor in the final life decision but the Dominant will always make the best decision for the good of the couple. For example, in a strict relationship where corporal punishment is used, punishment is always used for the well being of the submissive and the quest of the common happiness.

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You could be peeing on your slave, all the while holding them in the greatest of respect for it! Relationships where the Top really believes that the sub is just a low life and make certain that they know that, is a relationship that will ultimately end in failure. There is a limit in the humiliation you can give to someone and if the slave starts to really think they are a low life, you run the risk of huge mental problems resulting. The people in BDSM who have a successful relationship always keep in mind this respect. They know and respect what they are in BDSM.

Golden Shower

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Introdution

Golden Showers, or Water Sports, are nothing harmful or toxic. Urine is a compound of 99% water, some minerals (mostly salt, some magnesium, calcium, potassium and phosphate), uric acid, little ammonia and some vitamin C and B complex. The use of your own morning urine is considered a great method of healing wounds and often recommended by healers/MDs lately. Some people even drink their own morning urine as healing portion every morning. We can say it is much safer than for example anal sex which has more risks of infections and injuries.

WARNING: urine is a rather bad environment for HIV viruses (Human Immunodeficiency Virus), but an HIV/AIDS test should always be done if you consider things like Golden Shower with your (new) partner. An HIV test can be done rather anonymously (without visiting your local doctor) when making a blood donor. They check your blood for HIV viruses and other STDs and infections and you'll get a document.

What is Golden Shower?

GS is a slang term for the practice of erotic peeing in order to enhance sexual intimacy. It is sometimes involved in D/s play as an act of humiliation also.

Why do people do it?

• considering it a "dirty" act makes it very exciting
• sharing something very intimate with someone you are very close, something you wouldn't do with a stranger

What about the urine?

Urine has a peculiar smell that we seem to instinctively shrink from. Our bodies balance our dissolved minerals by eliminating excesses. We also need to rid ourselves of a compound called urea. We instinctively know from the odor that, no matter how thirsty we are, drinking urine will render our elimination strategy useless. But that doesn't make our urine dirty - in fact - urine is nearly sterile when it leaves our body and one of our medically cleanest body fluids.

But "nearly sterile" doesn't mean it is completely innocuous - the urine can pick up bacteria from a urinary infection along the urethra (urogenital tract) (an infection you sometimes even don't notice). This might be a health aspect to be considered when you intend to drink another persons urine. Whether Hepatitis Virus can be transferred or not is still unclear. Urine of women, who use the birth control pill, contains female hormones, which can lead to a partial feminization when being consumed by a man.

What about the smell of the urine?

To prevent any "offensive" smell you or your partner shouldn't drink any alcoholic beverages, coffee or tea a few hours before you want to do it. Also food with lots of protein causes a lot of byproducts which can cause the odor. Best is to drink a lot of simple table water a few hours before you want to play.

A small amount of alcohol can be useful for dissolving inhibitions over what you plan to do. But large amounts of alcohol detract from the sexual pleasure and ability.

Orgasm Denial: Prolonged denial gradually

Before reading this article, read these ones:
Orgasm Denial: Why Dominant Women like it?
Orgasm Denial: Why submissive men like it?
Orgasm Denial: How does it work?
Orgasm Denial: Trannying day
Orgasm Denial: When chastity is almost a must
Orgasm Denial: Metamorphosis of a Dominant Woman

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Through trial and error, women have discovered that the denied man is eager to serve but the sexually fulfilled man is often selfish and lazy. Not all men fall into this categorizing and that is why each couple must explore each other's sexuality and natures in order to discover that which works best for them. But overall, a woman will find that she wields more power and control over her submissive by keeping him denied. And when you think about it, that dynamic also provides for great mental stimulation for the woman as her knowledge that she is being pleasured as much as she desires but her man is being denied, will usually cause the female to feel more dominant and more powerful.

There are physical and psychological effects with male chastity and orgasm denial. A man must be led to prolonged denial gradually.

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Orgasm Denial: The weaning process
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Orgasm Denial: Why men live Women unfulfilled sexually

Face sitting: a kinky story

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My husband is a good man, a wonderful father to our kids, and a good provider for our family, but things have changed recently in our sex life. He's a very handsome man, at 36 he has stayed trim and always perfectly groomed, and I've always found his powerful position at the Bank to be extremely sexy. Knowing that he manages billions of dollars of risk exposure for one of the big-bad-banks, as they have come to be known, has always been a huge turn-on for me.

At some point though, things changed. Work takes its toll, kids, stress, daily life - it all adds up. I don't know that I ever really lost my sexual appetite, I think however that I no longer get off on being his slut.

In previous years, he enjoyed my feet on his terms - foot jobs under the table at restaurants when he wanted, masturbating and cumming on my feet when I didn't feel like having his cock in my ass, mouth or pussy. Don't get me wrong, most times I was really into it, I mean cum is wonderful for the skin, but looking back I had zero control.

Alas, these are not those days. I haven't let him fuck me in months, and can't recall the last time I let him use my mouth. No, these days, it is his face that is getting used - on my terms and when I want to get off. And when I want to give him a treat, I'm the one who fishes his cock out with my toes, pulling his protein moisturizer with the bottom of my perfectly formed feet.

I went out dancing with the girls last week. Bending over in front of him to pick up my keys before leaving for the night, I could tell he was painfully backed up, and with my legs looking the way they did, I too would have worshiped them.

I wore a tiny little spaghetti strap tank top, little black skirt and some devilish black stilettos. I think a sophisticated woman stands out among the little blonde chaff, and my girls and I were demanding some attention.

We would occasionally have some boys to dance with and on one occasion, this innocent red-head cutie gingerly danced up to me. I turned and focused some attention on him, backing my cute little ass up into him... The dance floor was dark and I lost touch with my girls. I stood straight, leaned back into him, and he sucked my ear into his mouth. Right there on the dance floor. We left shortly thereafter and if my girls either saw what happened or smelled the sex on me, they never said anything about it.

I walked into the house and my pussy was still wet from replaying my dance floor encounter all the way home. Hubby was still awake, watching TV in the den.. I think he was actually rubbing his cock through his shorts when I startled him.

He said something I didn't pay attention to, but quickly shut him up when I walked up, pushed him over onto the couch, threw a leg over his head and sat on his face. To this point I had not taken the time to pull my panties off and I was getting annoyed, my pussy not having access to his tongue and lips. Hooking thumbs under the side strings of my LaPerla thong, I pulled hard and ripped my thong straight out from my ass.

I can only imagine how I must have tasted - no doubt tangy from the sweat of dancing and half-stale cum from my dance floor tryst. But I didn't care. This was now my turf. I owned this otherwise very powerful man, and he was mine to use and abuse as I like. I was drunk with the power of taking him, using him, and I glimpsed how he felt for so many years, as I made my mouth, pussy, ass and feet his playscape.

I started grinding my pussy into his face, bucking my hips and smothering him in the process. Occasionally he would catch some air as I fucked his face. My pretty little feet were now on either side of his head and I pulled my ass cheeks apart, giving full access to my gaping pussy and asshole. I started calling him my bitch, recalling fondly that's what he would call me as he fucked my unlubricated asshole, and directed him to tongue my ass. He eagerly complied and tongued my ass with aplomb.

Hubby's cock was bouncing up and down - he was clearly enjoying himself, though I think he was probably frustrated that my knees were holding his hands down. I could see he was feebly trying to reach his little cock with his pinned-down hand. Intentionally being a bitch though, I didn't let him touch.

Continuing to fuck his face, my long overdue orgasm thankfully approached. The closer I came to orgasm, the more force I directed into fucking his face. I reached back and grabbed a handful of hair as it hit me, pulling him up even further into my ass.. I pulled as hard as I could and bucked wildly as wave after wave of orgasm brutalized my body. My high heels dug into the side of his head and my asshole was now stretched over his nose. I had never really been one to squirt, but became very aware of the fact that liquid was pouring out of my pussy, into his mouth and down the sides of his face.

After what felt like the most intense, longest orgasm of my life, I collapsed.. I fell forward and rolled off the couch and onto the plushly carpeted floor. Exhausted!

I got up and walked off to bed in my heels.

Doctor, does my boyfriend have a footfetish...?

People who have foot fetishes may experience them in different ways. Some people become aroused by looking at pictures or video of naked feet and may even masturbate to such images or otherwise incorporate them into their sex play.

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QUESTION:

He wants me to compare his feet to pictures of other men's feet and tell him how these men with bigger soles can please me more than he can. He also requested pictures of me with my feet on another guy's penis. Should I be concerned? I've tried doing research but can't find anything on this type of fetish.

(DOCTOR’s) ANSWER:
There’s not really such a thing as a “usual” foot fetish. No two Foot Fetishes are alike, here’s some of them:

• looking at pictures or video of naked feet and may even masturbate to such images or otherwise incorporate them into their sex play
• looking at people’s feet out in public, person may prefer men’s feet or women’s feet, or may prefer to see feet in certain types of shoes
• seeing women’s feet in certain types of sandals, but only if these women had well manicured and painted toenails
• taking care of women’s feet, he enjoyed pampering women’s feet, washing their feet, putting lotion on their feet and finally licking his partner’s feet
• calling strangers and asking them their shoe size.

Your BoyFriend
I think it’s pretty great that he feels comfortable enough to share information with you about his foot fetish. Not everyone feels comfortable sharing their sexual likes and dislikes with a partner. Perhaps he feels like he can open up to you without judgment.
That said, just because you don’t judge him doesn’t mean you have to do what he likes or wants to do. It’s up to you to decide what to do with the information he’s shared with you.
If you’re open to trying out his interests, it could be—at the very least—an interesting and new experience for you.
And, if it works out, it could be an experience that brings you closer to each other if you two feel like you’re able to be vulnerable with one another and indulge each other’s desires and interests.
Of course, it’s up to you to share your own desires and interests with him and to ask him to try things—in or out of the bedroom—that interest you, too.
I say in or out of the bedroom because while some people very much want their partner to try something new sexually with them (for example, how your boyfriend wants you to participate in his foot fetish), other people want non-sexual things from their partner.
Maybe you want something sexual from him or maybe what you want is for him to spend more time at home, to watch independent movies with you, to sign up for tango classes, or to learn a new language together.
The point is that you two should feel encouraged to share your sexual and non-sexual lives together in ways that feel good.

TALK TO HIM
Of course, you’ll also need to decide what to do about this other guy that he wants you to interact with as part of his interests.
Who is this guy? Is it someone you know? Do you want to be sexual with another man? Do you want to put your foot on another man’s penis?And, if so, do you want photographic proof of this?
Or would there be some other way to satisfy his desires, such as by telling stories about such a scenario or drawing pictures of it or looking up videos or pictures of other people who have done such things?
These are conversations for you and your partner to have as you figure out what you two are and are not into.

How to have strap-on sex with a male partner

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It’s great that more and more men and their partners are discovering how much fun anal play and prostate pleasure can be! If you’re thinking about getting started, we have some tips for things to consider.

When trying anal play for the first time, some men and their partners dive right in, enjoying it right from the start. If your first experience is full of fireworks, great! But if not, don’t worry about it. Anal play often feels very different than other kinds of sex and it can take a few times to find what works for you.

It may work better for you if you take it nice and slow, without rushing to get to the “good stuff.” The pelvic muscles sometimes hold a lot of tension, especially if he’s nervous, so give him some time to relax into it. Remember -- anal play is about letting the anus relax, rather than forcing it to stretch.

Some people like to use strap-on harnesses as part of power play. Or perhaps you’re interested in role play or playing with gender. But other people use them simply to provide hands-free dildo use, which keeps your hands available for other things. Whatever your desires and fantasies, there are plenty of ways you can enjoy your strap-on.

You may find that his erection gets softer with anal penetration. That’s quite common since the pelvic floor muscles need to relax to allow your finger or your toy to slip inside. Don’t take it as a sign that he’s not enjoying himself. Feel free to check in and ask him how he’s doing. Remember -- this is about both of you having fun, so take some time to figure out what works for both of you!